Before I throw these things out at you let me say that every day is going to be different. Some days the kids are tired, sick or just not having it at all and need a kick in the pants.
Other days you will find yourself drowning and just wanting to walk away.
I have had many days lately where I thought I might lose my mind. Between kids not listening and trying to get work done the dog barking and cooking meals it has made me want to scream. So as I write this know that I am using these daily!
1. Start the day with a positive attitude. I can’t stress this enough. Some days we wake up and would rather have our entire bodies waxed than deal with teaching… (or is that only me?) On days like this I take 5 minutes and sit down to do what I call open eye zone out. I literally pick a spot, usually something pretty like a vase or picture or even the dog and just zone out. Don’t force your eyes to focus and go rag-doll all over. This helps me put those gross things I am thinking away and shelf my mood so I can at least get the kids on track.
2. Have an idea of what it is that you need to accomplish. It is so easy for me to get side tracked and end up following a path I didn’t need to go down that day. The best thing I have discovered is recognize what it is that you really have to finish or start or work on that day and do that right away. Afterwards you can let the house fall down around you as long as you got that one thing finished. I’m just kidding, but seriously checking that one thing off will give you a feeling of accomplishment which is such a big deal when you are in charge of herding
3. Take breaks, as many as you or the kids need. Some days I can fly through things with the kids and we are on a roll. Other days we all need to be put in our own corners and taken off sugar! On those days make sure you stop and take a break. Just get up and walk around or deep breathe. My favorite thing when the weather is decent is we ride bikes or walk to the mailbox. Grab a snack, play a hand of cards. Anything to take your mind off of things for at least 10 minutes. Some days we need an hour.
4. Recognize not just the kids accomplishments but also yours. If you are like me at all, everything the kids do you recognize and you are the first one to make a big deal and praise them when they get something done. Remember to take a moment and do that for yourself. If you are lucky enough to have a spouse that praises you for a job well done that is wonderful. I don’t know what that is like, so for the others like me please give yourself the credit you are due. As mothers and teachers we so often discredit all the things we do because they don’t bring in money. What you are doing by putting time, energy, and love into your children’s future is priceless and you deserve so much praise for that. So if no one is telling you, I am, here and now and remind yourself also that you are doing a difficult job that is seriously amazing. I am proud of you and it will not go unnoticed.
5. Know when to walk away. Yes there are days where we are not able to just pull it together. There are sometimes entire weeks and once there was an entire month I just could not pull it together to get all that we needed done. It was a terrible time and I had just watched my husband pack up and leave without warning so I will give myself some slack there and hope you don’t judge too harshly. Whatever the reason we have down times. Stress, illness, relationships, moving, all of these things can throw us off kilter and leave us struggling to make it through the work. If it is one of those times know that it’s OK to walk away from it. You do not have to be perfect. The kids wont wilt and become daft over night. So take that pressure off and see how things start to look up right away.