“Dare to walk a path that no one else has tried. Dance to the beat of your own drum. It’s never too late to start.” – Author Unknown
What drove me to seek out education alternatives to public school.
It was 2013. My youngest son had started Kindergarten. My older son was in second grade. My older son had struggled through Kindergarten and I was there literally every day for months. At first the teachers told me it was because “he is such a momma’s boy, he just needs that separation, he will be fine after you leave him here.” The only problem was he was not fine, and it wasn’t just going away after a couple days. He was frustrated with the amount of work. The lack of break times. He was five years old and sitting at a desk for way too long.
He already knew how to write his name and sing the alphabet and reading sight words. All of which I was thrilled with. These seemed like skills we should have been proud of but it was a non stop rush to the next thing and my son was being drug along kicking and screaming in frustration.
I was sick about it. Constantly worried and at the school so much they all knew me by first name and I was doing errands and jobs for the teachers to help out. Of course it was all volunteer work and I soon became room parent and on the PTA. I was showing up and smiling and trying to do my best to “make a difference” from the inside.
I thought my presence might help relax things and I might even take up some of the ridiculous pressure issues with the principle.
Months and another year went by and my youngest started Kindergarten at the same school. I was walking down the same halls lined with the same work I had seen in the two years past and I dreaded leaving him there in the hands of the same teachers that tried forcing my first born to write with his right hand and not his left. I was dreading the long days of doing meaningless work while my kids cried after dinner because they had an hour of school work to complete before bedtime and the day started all over again.
I was right to dread it because the same problems I had the first go around were repeating themselves and I knew it was time to make some major changes. I was up against a very domineering husband who did not agree with me on the children or their schooling. He said it would give them character to cry daily and be forced to sit still.
We got into terrible fights about school and I started to realize I was not going to have his support and I was looking to family and was receiving the same contempt.
I fought the non stop, “How are they going to be socialized? What are you going to do if they fail? What if they turn out weird like (fill in the blank with someones 2nd cousin who homeschooled)?”
Long story short here we are several years later. The husband that fought me so hard ended up leaving. The family that voiced their concerns over socialization still do just that but it rolls off my back.
In the long run the decisions we make for our children we have to make with this in mind:
If you can look into the future and explain to your child exactly why you chose what you did and that it was purely for their benefit and you trusted your gut with making the decision. If you can be proud that the decision wasn’t something another person forced on you or one you made out of fear then do it. That stands for if you decide to homeschool or not.
One of the biggest things I have ever done outside of having my sons was choose their school path alone and despite what others said. I trusted my gut and it’s paying off!
If you are new to the idea of homeschool and are educating yourself congrats!! This is a big step and one that means you are taking your children’s futures seriously.
Check out the Homeschool Style Quiz (here) and sign up for an email of the Crash Course in Homeschool which is a great beginners guide!