Ever feel like you are constantly wondering how you got to where you are? I have spent a lot of time living life on autopilot. Sort of going through the motions. Dealing with things with this odd degree of separation. I imagine it like there is this buffer I put up, a sort of bubble or filter that blocks me from really feeling things. After considering this idea for a while I realized why we do this. It’s an unconscious thing. I don’t think any of us wake up and decide to shut ourselves off from good things. Maybe we do this with the bad purposefully, which seems like it’s helping at first until we realize it’s doing more damage. See when that filter goes up whether it’s to protect us from pain or to not it starts to block us from the good as well.
I have been working on an exercise that takes only 15 minutes. YES! 15 minutes to help you wake yourself up and shed that filter.
Let the good in. Let the light in. Let the love in. No matter what situation you are facing or the degree of pain it has caused this will help. I only share this so confidently because I have experienced a severe amount of pain, mostly emotional in a short amount of time. I know how difficult it can be in the lingering days, months or years after a tragedy to connect with yourself again.
So no more rambling! Give this a shot for me and let me know how it works for you. Be patient with yourself, sometimes things come when we don’t try too hard.
- Breathe… I know I know. It’s so cliche right? Telling you to just breathe. Well sometimes what we need to hear the most we have heard before a 1000 times and we continue to hear it like a crazy water torture technique that drives us to make a change. There is nothing fancy here to do just sit still and breathe or if that’s too tough, stand or walk and breathe.
- Accept. Yes totally 100% accept what is happening. If things are fine and peachy then accept that. If you are sitting in traffic accept that too. If you are stressing about someone or missing someone accept that too. It does NOT mean you have to like it. Just deal with what is, for now.
- Find Joy. This can be the toughest thing to do when you are in the middle of a disaster. The storm is swirling around you and it’s easy to get caught up in the crazy of it and lose your joy. I deal with this frequently. An argument with someone who knows how to push your buttons, or judgement from someone who’s opinion you take to heart can cut you to the core. The hardest part is realizing it’s happening and when you do, swiftly taking a deep breath and accepting it for what it is. Then looking around and realizing there is still joy despite what was said. Despite the words that cut you, despite any shortcomings. Get outside of your head and listen, look, and feel there is joy everywhere. There is joy in greeting a passerby. There is joy in seeing the sun filter through some trees. There is joy in watching ants tirelessly march on to their destination. There is so much joy in a hug, a smile or a kind word. It just takes slowing down to see it.
I sincerely hope this helps and would love to hear your experience with trying this out. Stopping and doing this has seriously saved my ass many a time and I promise if you give it a chance it will help so much.