One of the philosophies of unschooling is to take a more hands off approach. I admit when I first heard this I laughed and thought “Yeah right!” and then they learn nothing and I sort of imagined my boys running around like wild animals unable to communicate and when it came time to go to college they would be laughed out of there.
Man, that anxiety is nasty mean isn’t she. What a grip her fear mongering can have on our choices.
Today I observed. I watched my son lay in front of his bedroom window in a spot of sunshine and watched as the cat walked up to him and he lovingly wrapped his arm around her and pulled her closer. The two nestled together; I had to pause and take this in. It was a beautiful moment. It was something that I had to pay attention to. I had stopped myself from yelling at them both to run downstairs and “get on your schoolwork already”. I had stopped to watch and see what he was doing that kept him delayed so much from what the Nazi in my minds schedule couldn’t control.
You see most of us have that schedule Nazi. The one that freaks out if lunch break runs too long and when the end of the week happens we didn’t do every worksheet and 5 complete experiments. This poor gal is running off of fear. Mostly what others will say if my son can’t answer a random question. Sometimes of what his father will say critically about how he isn’t learning enough. So she tightens the grip on controlling the schedule to make sure it’s all enough. What happens though is these little moments get lost in a frantic rush to clear a checklist of items. Most of which he wont remember.
So I urge you to take time to really observe your kids when they are not strapped to a schedule and see what simple and amazing things they do on their own.